How to Stop Worrying| bagaimana caranya menghilangkan ketakutan dan kecemasan| langkah langkah menghilangkan kecemasan dan ketakutan

Everyone worries to some extent. It could be about something little, like what you think you got on a test, or something big, like getting a major surgery.

Do you worry so much that you worry about worrying too much? In the end, if you just worry about what's going to happen tomorrow, when will you have the time to live today? These simple steps could help you relax and appreciate living.

STEPS:

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   Live in the moment. Don't obsess about the future - instead, focus on living in the present. Take out time for yourself, or get into an engrossing hobby or sport that will take your mind off your troubles. Read a good book, watch a movie, or have a conversation with a friend. Whatever you do, it should be about living your life as it is now, and not worrying about what's happened in the past or what might happen in the future.
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   Tackle your worries head-on. You can anticipate potential problems and plan ahead without worrying. The difference is that worrying consumes your thoughts. Address whatever it is that's keeping you up at night, and you'll stop worrying about it. Need to pay a bill? Call the office or fill out a check now - don't wait. Worried about what might happen to your house in a fire? Make time to pick up some extinguishers and smoke alarms.
   • Once you've carved the time out of your schedule to address the problem, stop thinking about it. If the thought starts creeping into your head, shut it down by telling yourself, "No, I've set aside time to deal with that this evening."
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   Schedule your worrying, so that it doesn't interfere with your daily life. If a worry enters your head at an inconvenient time, designate another time to address it. If you start thinking about house fires during your child's school play, for example, you might think to yourself "I'll go home and make a plan at 10 p.m. when the kids are in bed. There's no use in thinking about it until then."
   • Use your time well. Instead of wringing your hands and dwelling on your worries, decide what you're going to do about it. Make a mental plan, or write it down and stick it on your bathroom mirror.
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   Move on. Once you develop a reasonable plan, and commit to following it, there's no need to dwell on the worry anymore. Let it go. The danger in worrying is when a scenario that you dread lingers in your head. Sure, you could always do more, like anticipating every possible outcome and taking every possible step to prevent each unwanted outcome from happening, but you'll spend your life preventing bad things from happening rather than enjoying the good things that have already happened. And you won't even be able to stop all bad things from happening, anyway!
   
   
   • Maybe you need to learn to be comfortable with risk. If you believe you've done enough to decrease the chances of something happening by, say, 85%, accept that as good enough. There are simply no guarantees in life, and nearly everything carries some level of risk.
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   Don't recycle the past. Many of the worries we have about the future are fears that the past will repeat itself. Whether it was heartbreak, or an injury, or a natural disaster, it haunts us and we want to do everything in our power from preventing it from happening again. 
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   Stop trying to save the world. If you feel like it's your job or responsibility to stop bad things from happening (perhaps to your family, your business, or at all), you're placing too much pressure on yourself. There is such a thing as a hero complex, and you might have it. The thing is, you're only human, and to set yourself an unattainable standard will only cause pain and disappointment. Take the advice in How to Overcome Martyr Syndrome to heart.